Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
‭‭I Corinthians‬ ‭13:4-7‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Love is by far the greatest human emotion, it can make you cry or laugh. Love heals, love builds but again love breaks the heart, and it kills. I am fascinated by how far people celebrate love but how little they are willing to learn how to love. It’s interesting for me that we are taught how to count numbers, or how to cultivate crops but when it comes to loving, everything is left to chance or instinct.

But the bible speaks of love in a totally different language, Paul the Apostle says love suffers long; but who goes in the path of loving but to suffer? He also says, it does not seek it’s own; but for how long can one continue in love just for the sake of the other? Paul says, love bears all things! Like seriously?

The tragic truth about loving someone is that, we start loving them from a place of ignorance! Many people will not agree with me here, but that is true, because only what they choose to reveal is what we can claim knowledge of. And in the early stages of many romantic relationships, folks are careful not to reveal themselves.

I am not saying knowledge is unimportant when it comes to the art of loving, the crucial point when it comes to knowing someone, is what I choose to do with my knowledge of that being. Sometimes knowledge can cause problems, each passing day, of knowledge upon knowledge can simply convince me that I married the wrong person. Maybe that is too strong, but the more we know about our partner, the more we are convinced that we’re wrong from the beginning.

There is a point in every relationship where you begin to wonder how  you ended up marrying the wrong. The truth is, everyone out there is wrong! To put it theologically, everyone out there is a sinner! Every human being is full of pride, selfishness and every unwelcome emotion. The only reason we believe that the right person is out there, is because we don’t have a true knowledge of them. I think this is one of the most important skills to learn when it comes to loving; that what we know or don’t know about someone can easily mislead us .


This Valentine’s Day, be reminded that true love is born out of grace. Love cannot thrive through knowledge, it flourishes only by grace. Knowledge is important as to how one uses it. We enter into the world of love with very little knowledge and after we have acquired some knowledge of the other person, we don’t know how to rightfully use such knowledge! Will the knowledge that I now have, help me to show love, compassion, forgiveness, understanding and grace or it will push me to look for someone that I don’t fully know?